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Reflections on Continuing the Growth

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Lately, life’s been throwing its usual curveballs, and it’s reminded me how important it is to stay grounded when things get chaotic. There’s always something shifting—whether it’s in our personal lives or just the craziness of the world around us. But the real key to growth? It’s learning how to keep your feet planted, no matter what’s happening.

One of the biggest things I’ve been thinking about is confidence. And no, it’s not about having everything figured out. Confidence is about trusting yourself to take the next step, even when you don’t know exactly where it’ll lead. One of my favorite books, The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida (2004), talks about how real growth happens when you lean into discomfort. That’s been a huge shift for me—it's not about having the perfect plan; it's about moving forward, even when things feel uncertain.

Another thing that’s been hitting home is staying grounded. When things get messy, it’s easy to feel like you’re getting knocked off balance. But as Connor Beaton says in Men’s Work (2021), real strength comes from staying connected to your values when everything around you is chaotic. This has been a big focus for me—keeping steady, no matter what life throws my way.

Then there’s gratitude. It’s not just about being thankful when things are going well; it’s about finding meaning in the tough moments too. Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning (1946) talks about how we can’t always control our circumstances, but we can control how we respond. Gratitude has been a way for me to shift my mindset and see the bigger picture, even when things are hard.

And you know what? Reflection is key. Growth isn’t some straight shot. You grow, you screw up, you reflect, and you adjust. It’s a loop, and without the reflection part, you’re just spinning your wheels. In Resilient Man (Garraway, 2019), it’s clear that self-reflection is what keeps you on course. It gives you the insight to keep moving toward your goals without losing track of what really matters. ChatGPT (2024) also emphasizes the importance of this cycle, showing that staying present and self-aware is the way to keep pushing forward.

As I move forward, I’m focused on staying present and learning from what’s behind me. Growth isn’t about racing to the finish line—it’s about making conscious choices, step by step, and letting those small moves build up into something bigger.


Work Cited

Beaton, C. (2021). Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage & Find Freedom. HarperCollins.

ChatGPT. (2024). Personal communication. OpenAI.

Deida, D. (2004). The Way of the Superior Man. Sounds True.

Frankl, V. E. (1946). Man’s Search for Meaning. Beacon Press.

Garraway, R. (2019). Resilient Man: Conquer Self-Sabotage and Embrace Emotional Vulnerability. Penguin.

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